What is Love? 5 Different Types of Love!

What is love? Well, love is a 4 lettered word that is simple but very intricate!  There are so many parts to love and so many different types of love! Let’s start with the true, supreme love…the love of God! God’s love is unconditional! Do you know what that means? It means that He loves us without any conditions whatsoever! There is nothing we can or have to do to have Him love us! He created us and He loves us UNCONDITIONALLY!  Unfortunately we have to learn to love like that, but we can when we learn to develop that beautiful close relationship with our Daddy!

Next is love between a husband and wife! Now this is a love that can and should be strong and continually grow and mature throughout the years. The butterflies in your stomach and the fireworks going off when you kiss or are with that someone is not love! It is the idea of being in love; the excitement of finding that someone ‘special’! The marriages that last through whatever life has to offer; the trials, the sorrows, the hardships are the marriages built on love, friendship, laughter and trust! If you don’t have a friendship with the one you are married to, you don’t have a lasting marriage. Your spouse, the person you vowed to love and let no one or nothing come between you, should be your best friend, the one you love and who loves you with God’s love…unconditionally! ‘Marriage love’ takes sharing, laughter, a sense of humor, support, faith and patience! The one you married is not perfect, but neither are you! Together you work to build a beautiful, happy marriage!

Next is love for your child or children! Oh, when that first child is born, you think that it is impossible to love anyone or anything more! You have this small, precious, most beautiful, innocent little angel that is the product of your and your other half’s love for each other! Your heart feels like it could burst! God has blessed you with a very, very special gift! Now what you have to realize is that God has not given this precious child to you as a possession! He has placed him/her in your hands to teach, guide, feed, clothe, train up to maturity into a wonderful Child of God! Parents’ love takes on several different aspects! It is not meant to be a smothering, controlling or over indulging love. You can have a friendship/parent love with your child as long as the child knows where the friend stops and the parent takes over (“children should be seen and not heard”)!  This is the type of love I worked to have with my children. They knew that I was their friend and they could tell me anything without condemnation from me, but they also knew where the friend stopped and the mother took over…a very fine line that was seldom crossed! So many people look at a baby and think, ‘Oh, it is so cute and doesn’t know what is going on!’  WRONG!!! Babies are born knowing how to manipulate and so many are smarter than their parents! 🙂 When you truly love your child, you learn to practice ‘tough love’ when necessary! ‘Tough Love’ is learning to say no; to discipline when necessary; to even spank their little bottoms when necessary! It is also learning not to give in when you have said no! It is learning to let go of them to experience growing up. It is teaching them to do things for themselves! It is teaching them responsibility and independence! Have you ever watched a bird’s nest…first the eggs, then the babies, the feeding and caring for the babies and then the actual pushing them out of the nest to learn to fly! One day your child/children will grow up and be ready to go out on their own and build their own lives. If you haven’t used ‘tough love’ and taught them to be independent, they will have a hard time learning to build relationships and the life that God intended for them!

Next is love for your Granddarlings! Oh, this is the most wonderful love of all! Not only can you love that little ‘continuation’ of your and your husband/wife’s love with all your heart, but you have had the wonderful experience of training, teaching, praying and learning patience with their mommy or daddy! Now you can love, play with and 100% enjoy your Granddarling and not have the responsibility that goes along with it! You also get the enjoyment of seeing your little Granddarlings pull or try to, the same things that their parent pulled or tried to on you when they were little! Oh, those ‘paybacks’ are wonderful! Who says God doesn’t have a sense of humor???

The last love we are going to go over is the love for and from a true friend! This is another extremely special love! The Word of God says that in order to have a friend you have to be a friend and that a friend is closer than a brother! (Judy’s paraphrase!)  If you in your lifetime are blessed with one or more  true friends, then you are a very wealthy person! What is a true friend? Well, a true friend is one who loves you for who you are and who you can talk to about anything and they will understand. They are like an extension of you! You all think alike, finish each other’s sentences, you put each other first over yourselves. There is no jealousy, selfishness or envy! You can discuss anything without feelings being hurt, but with pure love, understanding, and support. A true friend is the 2nd opinion you need and the one you will take because you have each other’s backs! There is nothing on earth that can become true friends…that is the main difference in friends and true friends! True friends share things with each other that they can’t share with anyone else! I have been blessed with 3 true friends in my lifetime and the most important one of them is my daughter! I am a very blessed child of God!

All love is special because it comes from our Daddy and He IS love! When you truly love no matter if it’s for God, your spouse, child/children, granddarlings or a true friend there is happiness, laughter, fulfillment and there is no controlling, envy, jealousy or selfishness! Oh, we being human will have times of differences and ‘hurt feelings’, but in truly loving someone there is also forgiveness. Just as our Daddy forgives us! And believe me…the fun, laughter, peace, companionship, enjoyment and total happiness totally outweigh the other! Always remember…in order to be loved you first have to love! ♡

Love and Blessings
Judy ♡

"Seek and Ye Shall Find"

We all know that the Word of God says, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.” Matthew 7:7&8. 

Now too many of us look at that and think, “Oh, all I have to do ask for……; seek for….., etc. Well, that is true because Jesus said so, but…We also have to find out how Jesus said to pray and to whom! He said that we are to pray to the Father in His Name(Jesus’ Name). The only one we are to pray to is God Almighty and the only way to get to Him is through the Name Of Jesus. We are also to pray according to the Word of God. Instead of praying, “God if it’s Your will”, look up in the Bible the scriptures dealing with your need! That is what and how you pray and what you stand on! That is His will! 

Now look at this…Seek and you will find…How many of you know someone or someone(s) who are always looking at the bad and gloomy side of life? Who are always down, always complaining, always talking the negative, ‘poor me’, etc, etc? Well, what they are ‘seeking’ they are finding! What they are sowing they are reaping! There are some people who are great at quoting scriptures, talking ‘spiritual’ when around people they know love the Lord, but talking negatively all other times. They don’t realize that the words they are speaking are bringing those things to pass in their lives! We all need to watch our words and thoughts. We want our fruit to be sweet, ripe and delicious…not rotten! It is the fruit of our lives that people see and it is the fruit that brings others to want to know our God and find what we have! God is love, not misery! We were created in His image! Wow, just think about that for a moment and no matter what we are going through will not seem so bad! God love us unconditionally and He is always there to help us..,All we have to do is ask Him in the Name of Jesus; believe that He is giving it to us or doing it for us, and not doubting! He loves to give us what we ask for as long as it is in accordance with His Word! This is exciting! My Daddy loves me and loves to give to me! Do you know of anyone else who is as generous, giving and loves you UNCONDITIONALLY like your Daddy and mine? I don’t. 

Pray for those who don’t know better and help them to learn. We are all God’s children and one big family! 

“Ask and you will receive; Seek and you will find; Knock and it will be opened to you.” 

Love and Blessings, 
Judy emoticon

Examination Time

Have you noticed how materialistic everything and everyone has become? When I was growing up, (yes that was a long time ago in some eyes), we didn’t have to have ‘brand name’ clothes or toys; we didn’t have to have the most expensive either! I remember my first bike, which I was thrilled with, was a secondhand one, but I didn’t care! It was beautiful and it was mine! When our children came along, we splurged at Christmas on gifts for them but they didn’t expect to constantly be getting something every time they turned around. Even when they were older there were expensive things they wanted but they didn’t expect us to rush out and  immediately get it for them.

Today children, even young children, feel they ‘have to have’ the latest and best electronic item that has come out! They no longer know how to play and use their imaginations! Everything is either on the computer, the Wii or TV! There are other things that our children are missing out on too!

There are 2 things that I cannot tolerate, well, actually 3! The first is to be lied to. That I will not tolerate under any circumstances! The other 2 are snobs (A snob is someone who adopts the world’s view of snobbery â€” that some people are inherently inferior to him or her for any one of a variety of reasons, including real or supposed intellect, wealth, education, ancestry, beauty, etc.) and hypocrites (a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, esp. a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.)! Even as a child I didn’t like snobs and people that were hypocrites, even though I didn’t know that was what they were! You know how they say that children and animals are good judges of people? Well, that is a discernment that has continued and grown stronger to this day with me!

I was raised by loving parents who loved God and shared that love with others including my brother and me, by how they lived their lives, especially my mother. My mother was the most generous, giving, serving person I have ever known. She had a true servant’s heart because what she did for others she did without expecting or wanting anything in return! She put other’s needs before her own! She never was wealthy in material things but she was one of the richest people I have ever known because she was rich in love and friends! I am so thankful for God giving me the mother He did because of the lessons she taught me by not just instruction but more importantly by action…by doing and living it!

We were taught not to judge others by what they wore, what they drove, where they lived or how much money they did or did not have! We were taught to look at the person themselves and how they treated others. We were taught to look at their heart!

Now, don’t get me wrong…I like fine things too and I have some fine material things, but that is just what they are…THINGS! I have not made an idol out of them and I know where they came from. They were a blessing from my Daddy! He is my Source and Provider, and my Daddy! I believe in prosperity…I walk and live in prosperity! My EVERY need is met and so are my desires. Prosperity is not solely financial, it is in every aspect of your life…health, family, friends, love, mentally, emotionally and finances.  Not just material things!

The Word of God says “No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.” Matthew 6:24

The point of all this is to say, we have become so materialistic and lovers of money and things, that too many have lost sight of the true meaning of life! It’s not about what you do or do not have, the title or name that you have, it is about the person you are, your priorities, how you treat others, what is important to you!

In order to teach our children to become loving, caring, respectful, serving adults, we first have to lead by example. We have to be sincerely loving, caring, respectful and serving. You know God does not have favorites, He does not place one person above the other! He does not care (and I can’t tell you how much He doesn’t care!!!) about your material, temporal things! What He cares about is how obedient you are to His Word; how you treat your brothers and sisters; how you treat strangers; what your priorities are in life; what you do with your money, which He provided for you;  how you love Him; how you trust Him; how humble you are! You see God doesn’t like snobs or hypocrites either and He knows you inside and out! If you find yourself always talking about “me” or “I”, stop, ask your Daddy to help you and change the “me” and “I” to “You”. Put other’s needs first and you will find yours being met abundantly! You too will be rich like ‘the richest person I have ever known’…my mother!  
Love and Blessings,